It helps to keep the negative emotions in check & shows you care.
Be the man or woman you would want your future or current child dating.
Honesty, loyalty, trust, and communication all have to be there.
Always hold hands when talking about the hard stuff. Always seduce your lover, even if you are in a committed relationship.
But I feel like all of the advice for how to do that is stuff like “join a club” or “volunteer at a charity.” Except, if I volunteer at a charity just to meet someone and then I meet someone, I feel like that kind-hearted good soul is going to be pretty disappointed when I’m like, “Oh, I don’t ACTUALLY enjoy giving my time to help others; I was just trying to get laid. So here’s my best advice for the stuff you should do if you’re really looking to meet the person you’ll spend the rest of your life asking “What should we eat for dinner? Listen, I don’t want to be harsh, but if serendipity were the way you were going to meet your person, you wouldn’t still be single.
It pains me to admit this, but if you want to meet someone, you have to work at it. You know where you met someone to knock boots with? At Soul Cycle/the coffee shop you go to every day/your favorite wine bar/etc.
Just because you love each other does not mean that you’re good together long-term. If you keep this in mind when arguing, you’ll be able to actually resolve the issue than be mad at each other. You’re required to set yourself on fire to keep other people warm.
Don’t settle for someone who has zero regard for your feelings or wants just because you’ve been together a long time.
Don’t fall in love with your waitress, hooker, or therapist. Always be the first to genuinely apologize after a fight.
You can’t expect someone to love you when you can’t love yourself.
Just because a person is right or perfect for you, you may not be the right one for them. If you’ve lost count of how many times it’s broken, or the cost of repair far outweighs the initial outlay, throw it away and move on.