On the downside, I sometimes find myself (and others) acting inconsiderately because of the anonymity factor; you won't be held accountable for your actions because you'll probably never see that person again." Says Violet, another young woman living in L.A., "I really like when I have mutual friends with a guy—I feel more comfortable.Eleanor brings up the point of mutual friends, too, but a has a different take than Violet.
Abby, a San Francisco native, wasn't sure what to expect when she initially signed up.
"When I started using dating apps, I was looking to just date," she tells us.
But the truth of the matter is that more and more people have been using the internet and/or dating apps to find romantic partners, whether they're looking for something casual or long-term.
In fact, a 2015 Pew poll demonstrated that 5% of couples met online, while a 2017 poll conducted by The Knot found that 19% of couples met online, showing a pretty sharp increase over a short period of time. Perhaps to get to the crux of the matter, you have to think about what your goal is, carefully considering your personality and lifestyle.
Both are random people who could be complete strangers with no ties to your life," she says. "You're learning about a person's life and their baggage from scratch versus learning about them through a mutual friend.
And if you end up in a strong relationship with a person you met randomly or through an app, it's quite amazing when you blend your lives together." "Honestly, I think that the main difference between meeting someone on a dating app and meeting someone in a more organic way is that through a dating app, you know right off the bat that the person is interested in you.
Regardless of how things pan out, most of the people we talked to agree that dating is a great way to discover new things about yourself.
"Going on dates has actually helped me realize where I'm at emotionally.
In a similar line of thought, Sharon explains that "when you meet someone randomly, like at a bar, it's unlikely to end up sharing a ton of interests with the other person.
Backgrounds of where you grew up and how you grew up, religious or political affiliations could be very different, which I found was ultimately the reason why I didn't see a future with certain people I met in organic settings that were fun to hang out with but lacked common visions." She also says that setups can be awkward, too, since you or your mutual friend could end up upset if it doesn't work out.
"I found that there's no real difference between apps and meeting someone randomly.