However, when we discussed whether we should split in light of everything, he said he did not want to.
Through research I've learned that the best things to do in rebound relationships is to give the rebounding person space.
I want our relationship to have the absolute best possible chance and I'm prepared to set my emotions aside.
Meaning just when someone tells you "don't have sex on the first date, it's a sure way that the guy won't respect you and the relationship won't last," someone else will come along and tell you they had sex on the first date and later got married.
Dating rules are soft rules; they're guidelines and should be applied with common sense.
The downside is that you risk trying to approach the relationship emotionally removed in order to be objective.
This is what mental health professionals do with their client's. You can't be both emotionally removed and emotionally involved at the same time and expect that by doing so, you are giving "the relationship the absolute best possible chance." Additionally, you definitely can't have an amazing relationship with anyone if you are "prepared to set (your) emotions aside." Relationships that have the best chance at success are ones in which each individual is willing to jump in with both feet!
This is sign that he is moving through the grief and loss cycle in a normal and healthy way.
It is great that you care so much for the guy you're dating that you would even do research on rebound relationships.
He and his ex of 5 years lived together and were engaged prior to breaking up. He has expressed repeatedly how he grapples with trying to sort through what went wrong and his role.
Recently we had a heart to heart about the nature of his current relationship with his ex and he said they were still civil and still talk occasionally.
This holds true for the person in a rebound relationship.